Re-Pairing at Tibet House

Re-Pairing: Couples and Buddhism

Helping couples have deeper conversations after difficult times

Re-PairingTime & Place

Monday, September 19, 2011; 7pm-9pm Tibet House US (in the library) 22 West 15th Street New York, NY

Suggested Donation: $20 2 Continuing Education Credits Available ($15 additional)



Disappointments, arguments and fights, feeling misunderstood and distant from one another, getting or giving the “silent treatment” – almost all of us find these dynamics woven into interactions with the family and friends we love and care for the most.

This workshop will explore issues of relational Buddhism, to help couples have deeper conversations after the disappointments of intimacy.

We will discuss specific concepts of Buddhist psychology that can help us break through the impasses often experienced in emotionally-close relationships. These concepts can enable us to be more present in relationship with others and to increase resilience after reactivity and defensiveness.

We can find meaningful ways to “re-pair” and connect deeply again with our significant others, all while earning a greater understanding of Self/Non-Self and deepening our wisdom and compassion.

Re-Pairing represents 35 years working with couples, together with explorations in Buddhist psychology. Live role-play of couples therapy and group discussion will be included, and written workshop materials will be provided.

Buddhists, pre-Buddhists, therapists and non-ists are all welcome.


David Bullard, Ph.D., is a Licensed Psychologist and Marital and Family Therapist based in San Francisco. He is Clinical Professor of Medicine and Clinical Professor of Medical Psychology (Psychiatry) at the University of California, San Francisco (UCSF), where he also is Consultant to the Symptom Management Service, Helen Diller Family Comprehensive Cancer Center. David’s recent workshops have been at San Francisco’s Institute for Health & Healing; Tibet House US, New York City; and at SERES (Sociedade de Equilíbrio do Estresse e Resiliência), Sao Paulo, Brazil. He is conducting a series of interviews with Buddhist scholars, therapists and practitioners, including Robert Thurman, Ph.D., Mark Epstein, M.D., Lonnie Barbach, Ph.D., and Ven. George Churinoff, about the interface between western psychotherapy and Buddhist psychology. The first such interviews, with Mark Epstein, M.D., and Lonnie Barbach, Ph.D., are available online at For more information, please visit

Continuing Education Credits are available for an additional $15 fee.

2 CE hours are available for psychologists, LCSWs, MFTs and nurses through the Spiritual Competency Resource Center. SCRC is an approved CE provider for the California Board of Behavioral Sciences (BBS Approval PCE 111) for LCSWs and MFTs in California; for the California Board of Registered Nursing (BRN Provider CEP11909); and for the American Psychological Association (APA). SCRC is approved by the APA to sponsor continuing education for psychologists. Spiritual Competency Resource Center maintains responsibility for it programs and their content.and maintains responsibility for this program and its content. For more information, visit or contact David Lukoff, Ph.D., at (707) 763-3576.