Re-Pairing: Having Deeper Conversations after Difficult Times

Monday, May 12, 2014 | 6 pm - 7:30 pm

Held at the UCSF Helen Diller Family Comprehensive Cancer Center, 1600 Divisadero St., Third Floor, San Francisco.

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Register with the Cancer Resource Center at (415) 885-3693.

The cancer experience can put a strain on even the most solid partnerships. This seminar will shed light on various communication styles and introduce specific ways to help couples and individuals “re-pair” and reconnect to an even deeper level of intimacy than before. We will touch on recent understandings from attachment and emotional regulation theories, together what has been learned from advances in our understanding of the mind/body connection or psychobiology, with simple and powerful ways to safely connect to others. No personal sharing will be required in this short meeting.

Both singles and partnered participants are welcome.

Intimacy and Anger: A Path to Healing

November 17, 2013 | 1 pm - 5 pm | with Zesho Susan O'Connell and David Bullard, PhD

Green Gulch Farm | Muir Beach, CA

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In the Wheelwright Center at Green Gulch Farm

Singles as well as couples, therapists and non-ists are most welcome. (CEUs are available—see below.*) Class Fees: $40; $36 current SFZC members; $32 limited income. *Add $15 administration fee for CEUs.

*Note about CEUs: Four CE units will be awarded for those requesting it. The San Francisco Zen Center and the Spiritual Competency Resource Center team together offer CE credit to MFTs, LCSWs, psychologists and nurses. SFZC offers CE credit to MFTs and LCSWs as required by the California Board of Behavioral Sciences (provider #PCE1851). SCRC is approved by the American Psychological Association to sponsor continuing education activities for psychologists. SCRC maintains responsibility for these programs and their content. SCRC also offers CE credit to nurses (California Board of Registered Nursing Provider #CEP11909). For complete information, visit their website or contact David Lukoff, PhD, at 707.763.3576.

Pre-registration is required. Call our toll free number (888.743.9362) or our local number (415.475.9362).

Zesho Susan O'Connell is a Zen teacher with 25 years of meditation experience. She has lived at Zen Center since 1995, and was ordained as a priest in 1999 by Tenshin Reb Anderson. After serving in many key positions at Zen Center, she was invited to be Vice President in 2006, and President in 2013. She has conducted workshops in the US and Ireland.

David Bullard, PhD, has a therapy practice in San Francisco and is on the clinical faculty in medicine and psychiatry at UCSF, where he consults with Spiritual Care Services and with the outpatient palliative care group - Symptom Management Service of the Helen Diller Family Comprehensive Cancer Center. He has travelled in Bhutan with Dr. Robert Thurman and in Ireland with David Whyte. He has presented Couples Therapy Workshops in San Francisco (Institute for Health and Healing, CPMC and UCSF); New York (at TibetHouse.US); Tel Aviv, Israel; and Sao Paulo, Brazil (Sociedade de Equilíbrio do Estresse e Resiliência).

Embracing the Disappointments of Intimacy: How Buddhist Ideas can Help Relationships

Friday, November 8, 2013 | 7:30 – 9:30 pm | with Robert Thurman, PhD, Zesho Susan O'Connell and David Bullard, PhD

Kanbar Auditorium, Jewish Community Center

San Francisco

The emphasis, as expressed in the title, will be to discuss ideas and awareness that can help Buddhists and non-Buddhists "re-pair" their intimacy with loved ones after distancing, arguments, anger and even betrayals. Through this work we will thereby help to smooth the road to compassion, forgiveness and acceptance, as well as to deeper understanding of self and not-self. This discussion will also include specific concepts that can help us break through the impasses often experienced in emotionally close relationships, to support presence and resilience after reactivity and defensiveness, all while deepening our wisdom and compassion.

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